A Great Source of Happiness is Seeing Someone You Love Experience Joy
At first glance, feeling joy for others might seem so simple. Why wouldn't you be happy for someone who is feeling good? But it's not so easy when another person's happiness is due to something you wish you could have—like losing 50 pounds, running a marathon, or winning the lottery.
So how can you do it? Start by 'faking it until you become it.' In other words, if you pretend that you're happy for another person, eventually that pretending becomes genuine. The only prerequisite for this to work is that, if you're feeling envious, you put aside any negative self-judgment about it. You are not a bad person for feeling a bit envious!
By putting self-compassion and joy for others together, not only can you feel happy for other people, but that good feeling, in turn, can make you happy too. The true wonder of this is that the more you're able to feel happy for others, the happier you'll feel yourself.
But the 'practice' of feeling happy for others takes lots of practice. Every day!
Is there a way to age gracefully?
You could write books about this one, but probably the first step is to surrender and accept that you cannot possibly win this one. There are many victories during life, but eternal youth is not one of them. As a piece of matter, your body follows the following cycle: introduction, growth, maturity, and decline. Our job is to make the most of every season.
Though surrender tends to have a negative cultural connotation, inner surrender takes courage and the willingness to grapple with the truth. Real surrender is not synonymous with quitting but instead with acceptance and maturity which allows for you to make the most of every moment.
Can everyone win?
"Learning how to negotiate well is crucial for your success as an entrepreneur, parent, manager, mother, and every other role you play in life," said Alvin Roehr, CEO of the Roehr Agency. "It's a skill -- like any other -- that can be improved with practice." Roehr's priority is to have a good sense of humor. "Never lose your temper. Try not to get upset. Do what you have to do to keep it together and in perspective," said Roehr. Another strategy is to avoid making the final decision. You could say, "I have to bring this to my partner, or "I have to talk to your father," said Roehr. "Doing so will also give you more time to craft the right answer."
Why is it totally okay that you have to have your coffee?
Here are five research-backed reasons to turn on your coffee pot.
• Coffee might help lower your risk of certain cancers
There are more than 1,000 compounds in coffee, many of which likely harbor anti-inflammatory and anti-cancer compounds, according to a recent BMJ research review.
• Coffee might help prevent type 2 diabetes
Researchers from Harvard University believe that drinking coffee—either decaf or regular—might help prevent the development of type 2 diabetes, the most common form. According to the analysis, which was published in the journal Diabetes Care, the more coffee people drink, the less likely they are to develop type 2 diabetes.
• Coffee could decrease your risk of Alzheimer's
Over the past decade, studies have found a link between coffee consumption and a lower risk of dementia. It's thought that the drink's high caffeine content might be responsible for the brain-boosting benefits.
• Coffee might protect your heart
A new study published in April 2018 indicates that drinking coffee can actually decrease atrial fibrillation frequency by up to 13 percent. But that's not all coffee can do to protect your body's most vital organ. According to the BMJ review, people who drink coffee are 19 percent less likely to die of cardiovascular disease and 30 percent less likely to die of stroke than their coffee-abstaining counterparts.
• Coffee might help you live longer
That was the conclusion of a 2016 review in the European Journal of Epidemiology, which found that drinking four cups of coffee a day was associated with a lower risk of mortality, including deaths from heart disease and cancer.
Why do my feet hurt so much?
Here are a few ways you might be putting extra wear-and-tear on your feet without realizing it:
• You've been buying the same shoe size since college.
If you haven't gotten your feet measured recently, there's a decent chance you're squeezing into the wrong size out of habit. "Feet can increase in size with age or pregnancy, so a proper shoe fitting is always important," says Robert Raines, MD, TriHealth Orthopedic Surgeon, Foot/Ankle Specialist.
• You went shoe shopping in the morning.
Not only do your feet grow over the years, but they also swell throughout the day—so a pair that fits perfectly in the morning may be uncomfortably tight by the time you leave work. "Try on shoes at the end of the day when your feet are most swollen," Raines says. When you're standing (not sitting!) in a pair of shoes, you should have a half-inch between your toes and the front of the shoes, and you should be able to fit your index finger between your heel and the heel counter.
• You believe in fashion over function.
It's basically Shoes 101 that high heels can hurt your feet, but you also have to be careful with flats: If the toe box is too constrictive, it can cause problems. "Avoid shoes with pointed tips, which can cause crowding in the forefoot," Raines says. "This can lead to callus formation, bone spurs, inflamed nerves, or even promote toe deformities."
• You've gained a few pounds.
While a little bit of scale creep is normal, especially around the holidays, it can put extra stress on your feet. "Your feet bear 2 to 3 times your body weight when walking and up to 5 times your body weight when running," Raines says. So while a few extra pounds may not make a huge difference in how your jeans fit, it has a much bigger impact (literally) on your feet.
• You wear the same shoes for every workout.
Running shoes, walking shoes, cross-training shoes—it may seem like a clever ploy to sell more sneakers, but different types of workouts really do require different types of support to avoid injuries.
• You hurt your back (or knee, or hip).
If you're nursing an injury that makes walking painful, your feet will pick up the slack. "Your body will naturally guard an injured area, and the resultant limp will place added pressure on the next-best joint," Raines says.
Are your feet really are getting bigger?
Even if you didn't put on weight, chances are you went up at least a half-size in the past decade. Feet become both longer and wider as you age because the tendons and ligaments that link tiny bones lose elasticity.
Can you lose weight by simply going to bed?
Yes, you can lose weight by getting more sleep. People who are sleep-deprived often gravitate towards certain types of foods that give a rush of energy, like simple carbohydrates or foods higher in sugar or fat. "Just getting a little more sleep can help you lose weight, but it's also going to help you focus better; it's going to help your mood, help your irritability; make you a safer driver, and more productive at work," said Chiropractor and nutritionist Dr. Steve King, from Mt. Lookout Chiropractic. "Just that little behavior change can have an enormous positive cascade on a lot of different health behaviors and health outcomes."