Go! Just GO!
There are too many STOP signs in this world. Maybe that's the problem? Every road you go down, just when you're about to get somewhere—screeeeech—there's another annoying red stop sign.
It's a metaphor of our lives that every road has stop signs all over it. It's no wonder so many people feel as if they will never get to their dreams. It's no wonder so many people don't even bother to begin the chase, start the journey, or experience the adventure. There are just too many stop signs along the way.
What if there was a little ribbon around every stop sign between our houses and where we go every day? Those little ribbons might remind us that we need to keep going. Those little ribbons might remind us that stop signs are for cars and buses; they are not for dreams and hopes and plans and adventures.
So picture those ribbons on all your stop signs—think about those big dreams—smile with your whole face, and GO!
Is it time to kick the bucket list?
Americans have become obsessed with supposedly transformative experiences. But is deep sea fishing in Fiji what will really make life complete?
Compiling a bucket list was once the perfect way to pass the dreamy days of summer vacation. But now, Americans are so obsessed with running a 100-mile marathon in Colorado, visiting every Double-A baseball stadium in the country or flying in a hot-air balloon over Paris that all the fun has gone out of having a bucket list in the first place. Now it's just another form of work, competition and perhaps, disappointment.
What are some things you should never tell your work colleagues?
• "Your presentation wasn't good," or any other unconstructive criticism
"You should never give a coworker unconstructive criticism," said Alvin Roehr, CEO of The Roehr Agency. "When you're friends with a coworker, it can be tempting to just tell them like it is; but, it's better to discuss what mistakes were made and offer solutions to the problem. A friend will appreciate your help — and your office will be better off for it," he says.
• "I hate our boss," or anything else derogatory about your employer.
"You never know if they might repeat this to another team member, HR or worse, the boss you have been complaining about," says Roehr.
• "You're the best salesperson in the office," or whatever they want to hear.
"When someone in the office is also a friend, it can be tempting to tell them they did a great job when their performance was actually subpar," says Roehr. "But these little white lies simply perpetuate below-average work because you told your colleague it was excellent."
• "You'll never guess this about my client," or any sensitive client details.
"Make sure you are not releasing any private information across departments," says Roehr. "Don't let a simple file upload or email share put you in this situation—keep confidential information exactly that."
• "Did you hear about what Amy did?"Or any other office gossip.
"Even if the information seems harmless, it can negatively affect how your friend is perceived in the office," says Roehr. "Try to stick to work-related facts and avoid all gossip.
• "I really messed up," or any other admission of a big mistake.
"Of course, mistakes happen; but, you never truly know how someone could use this information against you," says Roehr. "They might not even realize it themselves until the two of you are vying for the same promotion."
What does wellness at work look like?
There's overwhelming evidence that exercising doesn't just help you stay fit – it also helps you focus better at work and increases your overall happiness. And that doesn't mean running 6 miles a day. Even a 30-minute walk four times a week makes a big difference.
Working longer doesn't mean better results.
Research from Harvard shows that people who work longer than 50 hours a week are actually less effective than people who work between 35 and 50 hours. The secret is really doing fewer things, better.
Sleeping makes a big difference.
Professional athletes today are increasingly focusing on sleep to improve performance. The same logic applies to all of us – research shows getting a good night's rest helps us focus and think more strategically. Plus, we are easier to be around.
Taking vacations is actually good for your paycheck.
Taking time off doesn't just make you feel better; it gives you the mental freedom to be more strategic at work, get promoted and get that raise.
What are three signs of a person of high achievement?
Men and women of great achievement know what they want, and they care deeply about it. They stay focused, are gracious and appreciative, think happy thoughts, and carry on.
If you need help figuring out what you are passionate about, try these:
• Think about a time in your life when you felt happiest. Explore that memory to identify why you were happy at that time.
• Consider activities you love doing. Why do you enjoy them?
• Look at your bank account and your schedule. Where do you spend most of your time and money?
• Write down your values, or the things you really care about.
Great achievers are committed to what they do. Find someone who achieved greatness and you will find someone who put in countless hours and years of sacrifice, working beyond the point no one else would. They planned, prepared and worked (again and again and again).
If you want to achieve something great you will have to:
• show up early and stay late
• work hours when no one else is working
• learn with humility
• try, fail, and try again
• do something every day to work towards your goal
• laugh at yourself
In the face of situations where other people would lose heart, they take heart. It doesn't take courage to succeed. It takes courage to keep going after you fail. True courage is not about never getting hit. True courage is about being knocked to your knees and standing back up. Everyone takes hits in life—missed opportunities, failure, loss. It's not a matter of if those things will happen. It's a matter of how you respond to them when they happen.
Can everyone win?
Learning how to negotiate well is crucial for life. It's a skill -- like any other -- that can be improved with practice.
Have a good sense of humor.
You'll need it! Negotiating is often extremely stressful for both parties, and that's why having a sense of humor goes a long way. Never lose your temper. Try not to get upset. It doesn't help to yell, write a nasty email or say something you don't really mean in the heat of the moment.
Another strategy is to avoid making the final decision. You could say, "I have to bring this to my colleague." Or, "I have to check with your father." Doing so will also let you off the hook.
Do what you have to do to keep it together and in perspective, whether that means deep breathing, giving yourself the night off, going for a run, etc.
Remember that time is your friend.
Don't hurry. If the party you're negotiating with pressures you to come to a decision quickly, that tends to be a bad sign. Both parties have to commit to spending time to compromise fair deal.
You might need to consult someone to help you make a decision—whether it concerns work, family, health or relationships.
Have a big picture attitude.
What are your long-term goals? What are you really trying to get out of this? It can be easy to lose sight of the big picture and get tied up and bothered by the stuff that doesn't matter.
Always have a few things that you can give up later.
Negotiation is a give and take. You don't want to be left having given up everything you really cared about.
If something is said that is, well, stupid, point it out. Then laugh. Hopefully, they will quickly recognize how one-sided it is.
Don't try to negotiate all of the trouble spots at one time.
It's overwhelming and tiring. Negotiating is a lot like eating an elephant: The only way to do it is a bite at a time. So pace yourself. Stay focused, and before you know it, you'll be done.
Identify what you want to stand firm on, and don't give in.
You will have to make concessions and compromises. You won't get everything that you want, but stay true to yourself and your character.