What's the Rush?
Why Hurry Up When You Can Joy Up?
We are hurrying.
All the time. Always.
Truth be told, I rush around, trying to fit so much into a little bit of time. I'm trying to maximize every day, every step, every moment. I'm trying to get everything possible out of life.
Turns out that I'm not the only one rushing around. For many of us, the habit is ubiquitous in nearly every aspect of our lives – from speed reading, to speedy workouts to the giga-speed of the little supercomputer we carry in our hand ALL THE TIME.
In fact, if we're not in a hurry at all times, we just don't fit in.
But—BUT— by cramming each moment so full of stuff, we leave ourselves no time to really experience them in any meaningful, fun, beautiful way. Years are a blur because a life in the fast lane means we're just speeding through, leapfrogging to the next thing, and filling our schedule until there's no time to even to think about what we're doing.
Let's rush to stop rushing. After all, without mindfully slowing down to a peaceful rhythm, we may end up watching our lives pass us by without enjoying each heartfelt, joyous moment.
Why hurry up when we can joy up?
Can you train your brain to get smarter?
The brain is a muscle. Here's how to give it a workout.
• Keep intelligent company
Jim Rohn said that you are the average of five people you surround yourself with. Think about what that means for your IQ. Being in the company of intelligent people will indirectly make you want to continue developing your own intelligence.
"The brain requires plenty of energy to function," says Dr. Bill Barrett from the Barrett Cancer Center at UC. "The lack of sleep and excessive stress can diminish your brain's capacity, and you won't have the ability to learn and improve."
• Eat well
"High nutrition foods work well to power up your brain," says Barrett. "Walnuts are a great source of brain food, so is fish. Tuna, mackerel, and salmon contain rich, fatty acids that have been proven to help neurons function."
"Well-read people aren't just articulate, they also have a vast pool of knowledge and an always-evolving mind," said Alvin Roehr, CEO of the Roehr Agency. "Reading improves your vocabulary, expands your communication skills and develops your analytical abilities."
• Play 'brainy' games
Your brain needs to face challenges to make progress. Once the brain realizes it's good at something, it stops trying, just like any one of us. Try memory games, Sudoku, word puzzles, and problem-solving games. These games will increase your pattern recognition, logic and ability to process thought quickly.
• Keep a journal
Einstein, Isaac Newton and Thomas Jefferson were all diary keepers. Taking notes and writing down things or ideas is creating an extension of your mind. Your thoughts will be recorded, and the routine of writing them down will enable you to think more thoroughly and improve your way of thinking.
What are some diet DISASTERS people do before a race?
• Eating the WHOLE thing
"Eat your normal dinner, not a box of pasta and a family-size salad," says Matt Frondorf from JackRabbit. "You are running a 10K, not going across the country on foot. Eat just to fullness so you don't get indigestion or have trouble sleeping."
• Drinking too much water
"Too much water will leave you feeling bloated and dilute your electrolytes -- minerals responsible for muscle contraction," says Frondorf. "Since the weather at race time will likely be cold, you won't dehydrate as quickly. Drink a cup or two of water before the start and at the finish. Take advantage of the water stop along the way as well."
• Skipping breakfast
"A pre-race meal keeps your blood sugar steady and provides energy to finish your race strong," says Frondorf. "If you get too nervous to eat, wake up a few hours before so you can eat slowly. A small amount of carbohydrates and protein like banana and peanut butter, oatmeal, or a piece of toast with almond butter and apple slices are a few quick and easy options.
• Trying something new
"Do not try that new spicy sensation or you could be bolting for the bathroom instead of the finish line," says Frondorf. "Stick with your same meal routine for a few nights leading up to the race."
What 20 questions can improve your life?
Answer these questions with the first answer that pops up in your mind. Everyone interprets these questions in a different way. And that's exactly the point.
1. What am I good at?
2. What am I so-so at?
3. What am I bad at?
4. What makes me tired?
5. What is the most important thing in my life?
6. Who are the most important people in my life?
7. How much sleep do I need?
8. What stresses me out?
9. What relaxes me?
10. What's my definition of success?
11. What type of worker am I?
12. How do I want others to see me?
13. What makes me sad?
14. What makes me happy?
15. What makes me angry?
16. What type of person do I want to be?
17. What type of friend do I want to be?
18. What do I think about myself?
19. What things do I value in life?
20. What makes me afraid?
Use your answers to improve your life. Do more things that make you happy, productive and healthier. Start eliminating the harmful, meaningless stuff.
Why is asking for advice more effective than asking for feedback?
Feedback has a negative connotation and is often associated with evaluation. At school, we receive feedback with letter grades. When we enter the workforce, we receive feedback with our performance evaluations. "Because of this link between feedback and evaluation, when people are asked to provide feedback, they often focus on judging others' performance," says John Barrett, CEO of Western & Southern.
"In contrast, when asked to provide advice, people focus less on evaluation and more on possible future actions," says Barrett. "While the past is unchangeable, the future is full of possibilities. So, if you ask someone for advice, they will be more likely to focus on future opportunities to improve."
What are the best running techniques to run more efficiently?
• Avoid over-striding
"Regardless of whether you heel strike or forefoot strike, a good rule of thumb in terms of over-striding is to look for the alignment of knee and ankle upon initial contact with the running surface," said Matt Frondorf from JackRabbit. "Ideally the knee should be flexing directly above the ankle on initial contact. If the runner is over-striding, you'll see the ankle ahead of the knee."
• Try increasing your running cadence (stride frequency)
"Just increasing it by 5% encourages you to reduce the over-stride and feel lighter on your feet as your contact time decreases," said Frondorf. "A digital metronome app is a great tool for achieving and maintaining an increased running cadence."
• Maintain a tall posture as you run "Most of us spend too much of the day sitting with shoulders rounded forward and hips flexed," said Frondorf. "This promotes short, tight hip-flexors and weak glutes." Frondorf encourages runners to maintain a tall posture (even when sitting) and counter-act the hip flexor tightness with hip-flexor mobility exercise every day.
• Relax your shoulders
"Tension in your shoulders, neck or upper back can inhibit your arm motion. You need your arms to provide balance, rhythm and power as you run," said Frondorf. "As with your legs, the faster you go, the bigger the arm motion should be."
• Strengthen your core
"Weaknesses and imbalances in your core can directly lead to knee, hip and back injuries, as well as running-related issues with the lower leg, calf and Achilles," said Frondorf. "Incorporate regular core strength and stability exercises into your weekly routine."
• Control your breathing
"Getting your breathing right is integral to your running technique and should be practiced so that you can maintain your composure on race day as your concentration is elsewhere," said Frondorf. "This will improve with fitness and practice."
What is the only metric of success that really matters?
When all is said and done, it's the people around you that make the difference. Bill Gates, reflecting on his work last year, said that as a young man in his 20s, he was consumed with making Microsoft a personal-computing giant. Today, his focus is on other people: "Did I devote enough time to my family? Did I learn enough new things? Did I develop new friendships and deepen old ones?"
"Humans need others to survive," says Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a professor of psychology at Brigham Young University. "Regardless of one's gender, country or culture of origin, age or economic background, social connection is crucial to human development, health and survival."
Even Warren Buffet says that his measure of success comes down to one question: "Do the people you care about love you back?"